Helping Teens Navigate Heartbreak: A Guide for Parents
When teens go through heartbreak, it can feel overwhelming—not just for them, but for their parents, too. Author and parenting expert Phillips explores this in her book, First Love: Guiding Teens Through Relationships and Heartbreak, offering advice on how parents can best support their children during this emotional time.
Validate Their Feelings
Parents might be tempted to dismiss a breakup as “just a crush,” but teens need to hear that their grief is real and valid. Psychologist Dr. Maria Ashford emphasizes that heartbreak can contribute to anxiety and stress, so parents should acknowledge their child’s emotions.
Guide Them Toward Healing
Some teens may dwell on the breakup, repeating the same painful thoughts. Phillips suggests gently redirecting them: “We’ve talked about this a lot. I’m worried your brain is getting worn out. Let’s find one problem we can solve right now.”
Support Without Overstepping
If your teen isn’t opening up, watch for signs of withdrawal. Ashford recommends checking in with a simple, non-invasive approach: “I know this is tough, and it helps to talk to someone. If not me, do you have someone you trust?” If they’re struggling, consider finding a therapist together.
Remember—This Is About Them, Not You
Parents may feel attached to their child’s ex or even be reminded of their own past heartbreaks. However, this is not the time to bring up your own experiences, especially a divorce or past relationships. The focus should remain on helping your teen feel heard and supported.
Breakups are tough, but with compassion and understanding, parents can help their teens healthily navigate this emotional milestone.
