A Father’s Letter from the Twilight: Faith, Focus, and the Folly of Disputes

As a father raising a toddler in my mid-fifties, I often say: I don’t have time to waste.

And I mean that in the deepest sense.

I’m raising my son in what many call the twilight of life, and I’ve made a deliberate decision, not to major in minors.

This journey of parenting, especially at this stage, has forced me to reevaluate what really matters.

There are arguments and theological debates that sound impressive in conversation but will hold no weight at heaven’s gates.

Not whether Jesus was born in December.
Not whether He was crucified on a Friday.
Not even whether water baptism or Holy Communion are still required or merely symbolic.

Scripture is clear:
“Accept the one whose faith is weak, without quarreling over disputable matters.” Romans 14:1

Instead, here’s what I want my son—and the world, to anchor faith in:

1. Christ died for our sins (Romans 5:8)
2. He rose again for our justification (Romans 4:25)
3. He intercedes for us today (Romans 8:34)
4. We are seated with Him in heavenly places (Ephesians 2:6)
5. We are saved by grace through faith (Ephesians 2:8)
6. And our faith must shape culture, meeting people where they are, helping them navigate the brokenness of humanity, while revealing the glory of God hidden within us.
   “But we have this treasure in jars of clay…” 2 Corinthians 4:7

This is the Gospel. And from it flows right living.

I remember hearing about a Sunday School class where a teacher was guiding young minds through difficult questions, Abraham’s bosom, purgatory, heaven’s logistics. And then, a young boy asked something profound:

“Will we get to heaven in a physical vehicle, or is it spiritual? If so, shouldn’t we focus more on preparing for the journey than arguing about the map?”

It struck me.

Wisdom from a young heart.
Sometimes, children remind us where the real questions lie:
“From the lips of children and infants, you have established a stronghold…” Psalm 8:2

So here’s my call, to parents, leaders, and legacy-builders:

Let’s anchor our faith and teaching in what truly matters.

Let’s leave our children with truth that transforms, not traditions that distract.

Do have an INSPIRED rest of the week with the family.