The author reflects on the challenges of parenting while dealing with the effects of a traumatic childhood. After her daughter was born, she was determined to create a safe and whimsical home but struggled with emotional regulation, having been raised by a parent who lacked those skills. Despite her best intentions for gentle parenting, she often found herself overwhelmed, especially during her toddler’s tantrums. She learned the importance of setting boundaries, a concept she initially misunderstood, thinking flexibility would help. After consulting a pediatric nurse practitioner, she implemented new boundaries, which ultimately reduced her daughter’s behavioral issues. Although maintaining these boundaries is still a challenge, the author recognizes their importance for her child’s well-being.
