This led Phillips to write the book, “First Love: Guiding Teens Through Relationships and Heartbreak.” It’s aimed to help parents — like herself — navigate these new treacherous waters. “Sometimes parents get caught up in what kind of relationship it was, saying, ‘Oh, it was just a crush,’ or ‘Oh, this was just this weird situation. You never really said that you were an official couple. So it’s probably good you can move on now,'” Phillips told Business Insider.