Meghan Montelibano-Gorman, 32, didn’t know what to do after she had her first baby in 2021. She’d always been a hard worker and never saw herself as a stay-at-home mom. But she didn’t want to miss out on her son’s early milestones, either. She said she felt like she had to choose between two camps of womanhood regularly blasted in movies, politics and social media: The “girl boss” or the “trad wife.”