The writer’s partner excels at daily tasks like dishes, laundry, and child care but struggles with non-daily tasks and cleaning up after himself and the children. The burden of managing household responsibilities like play dates, finances, and appointments falls primarily on the writer, leaving little time for personal pursuits or self-care. Despite occasional recognition from the partner, there is a lack of understanding about the mental and time-consuming nature of these responsibilities, leading to exhaustion and limited social interaction for the writer.
https://www.washingtonpost.com/advice/2024/03/17/carolyn-hax-resents-partner-household