When a child receives a duplicate gift, their disappointment is evident. As parents, we might prompt a forced “thank you” to avoid seeming ungrateful. Clinical psychologist Dr. Becky Kennedy suggests that the concept of “ungrateful” is unhelpful, as children simply struggle to express gratitude when disappointed. Unlike adults, who can manage disappointment and show gratitude, children need to be taught this skill.
Dr. Kennedy advises creating a mindful environment by asking questions like “What does enough mean?” rather than just instructing them to say “Thank you.” Parenting expert Amanda Jenner adds that avoiding overpromising, involving children in holiday preparations, and teaching them the value of homemade gifts and giving back can foster gratitude. She recommends activities like making gifts and helping to wrap toys for less fortunate children, emphasising kindness over material gifts.
